"How to have your life wrecked on Twitter...." ================================= (This document can also be found at twitterincident.kewlmcserver.net so you can be sure of authenticity of author) Introduction -------------- Hey there, I am hankscorpiouk, I live in a large city in the Northwest of England and here is my story of how you can have your life wrecked on Twitter! Intended audience --------------------- Social media users, Men, People who care about men, MRAs (men's rights activists), SJWs (social justice warriors), Feminists, Antifeminists, Health-professionals, Law-enforcement, Legal-professionals, [TL;DR is at very bottom but I implore you to please read, or at least forward this, thank you :)] KEYWORDS: twitter, harassment, law, legal, trouble, autism, Aspergers, ASD, UK, feminism, feminists, SJWs, MRAs, online-dating, argument, confrontation, threats, rights, safety, security, lessons, fairness, justice, proportionality, privacy, intrusion, violation, cartoons, dignity, compassion, respect, trust, betrayal, stalking, gangstalking, I posted a pastebin (http://pastebin.com/0QjwqLsn) about this a few days ago, but felt I needed to expand upon it, so created this. TIMELINE: early October to December 2014 (possibly Upto March 31, 2015) In early October I began messaging 2 women local to me on Twitter (from account: kewlmcserver (now suspended)) and things very quickly got ugly... I messaged one of them (GirlA) asking her to follow me, as I was already following her. My motivation was that I wanted to communicate privately with her. She politely replied to my message asking why I wanted to be followed. I forget exactly what transpired next, I think I told her I needed to tell her something privately. Suffice it to say it wasn't long until I told her it was because I wanted to seduce her! She asked me how the Hell could I seduce her in 140 characters. Good question. I was hoping our private conversation would quickly get to stage of me sending her photo(s) of myself and possibly being in with a chance of her. I'd already seen her pics on her blogspot blogs and liked ;P I was also under the impression she had a reputation for not asking men too many questions before, well, you know what.....in hindsight thinking with THAT brain caused this whole mess. Anyway, she refused to follow me and was generally dismissive of my admittedly pathetic attempts to get her attention. No raised voices so far. Unfortunately at around the same time I was having numerous animated, "debates" about male-rights with people identifying as, "feminists" and SJWs ("social justice warriors"). One of them sent GirlA a message trying to warn her to avoid me. This was a guy who had known me for all of 5 minutes, but because I disagreed with his arguments he attempted to sabotage any chances I might have had with her. Sadly she took his word. This led to me becoming irate and saying something very stupid and ugly to her....."you deserved to get chinned". This was a kneejerk reaction to the rejection and how it went down. Chinned for non-British readers is the act of punching someone in the face/chin. I was aware that she had been a victim of domestic violence at the hands of her then ex-boyfriend and reached for the sharpest knife in the draw. Not nice, not kewl and I can't justify it so won't. As you might imagine she was less than impressed. As the weeks passed I was to discover she had a very nasty temper, a very vindictive approach and a vitriolic tongue. I discovered she had auctioned property belonging to her ex that was left in her house when she threw him out, I discovered she'd previously implemented elaborate revenge plans on her ex while they were still dating, causing him huge problems. I read a tweet in which she stated, "I've been told I don't want justice, but people's heads on platters". I saw a pic of her with sullen expression holding a placard stating, "You hit me, now you turn me into a monster", presumably aimed at her ex. I discovered she was stalking my dating profiles and collecting notes on them, amongst other things. My education began that first day in earnest..... She went medieval on me, calling me everything under the Sun. Fair play. My DV comment was pretty provocative. I was still angry, so retaliated, she retaliated, I retaliated and before long her friends were becoming involved! Several of them. One of those was GirlB. Most of the others who came to her defence I would only have very superficial interactions with. Well, the hours of confrontation turned to days and the insults progressively more abusive (from her side), mine pretty much peaked at the start, but they were much more numerous. She and her side including GirlB had a bunch of haymakers while I had a million little jabs. Eventually she muted me and GirlB blocked me (wisdom right there - something we should have all done). However, despite this they were both reading my TL and I was still venting and dealing with all her angry friends. I made an attempt to communicate with her via her blog and Facebook, apologizing for my part and generally offering an olive branch (and still thinking with lower brain a bit too much for my own good). She replied via Twitter accepting my apology with the condition I left her alone. Interestingly to me, neither she or GirlB or any of her other allies offered an apology. At this point she should have blocked me, but I was still muted. The rest is hazy but I continued trying to speak to her. Eventually she told me she had gone, not was going, but had already gone to police. Considering I hadn't threatened her once and had been in bridge-building mode for a while this seemed very strange to me. I didn't know whether or not to believe her. At this point I should have cut my losses and walked away. Now this is all about a harassment charge the police is trying to level at me, and this is probably where it applies. Her saying leave me alone, and me not complying. However, she still hadn't blocked me, she still knew what I was saying on my TL even when I didn't @ her in. Additionally she and her friends were having great fun at my expense on her TL. She didn't seem like a very, "harassed" person, but more of a troll / bully. Occasionally she would tell me to go away and refer to me as a stalker. I would insist she hit the block button and stop looking at my TL if she wanted no dealings with me, but neither happened. The abuse of me continued as did the supposed harassment of her. Occasionally I would get a direct @ from her friends with abuse (one guy made a comment that could be interpreted as a threat, "I know what you look like and I'm going to find where you're based", as well as repeatedly asking me what part of the city I was in. He also mentioned distributing flyers with my image on them. I took all that as harassment and reported it to Twitter, as usual they ignored it. I didn't think it was serious enough for police, yet. Every so often GirlA would say something fresh about the police but I thought she was bluffing so ignored it. At this time me and GirlB became friendly and starting DM (Direct messaging) each other. We would eventually fall out and reconcile twice, the third time I gave up on her. She had also suffered from domestic violence hence her vitriol at the very beginning when I first spoke to GirlA. Weeks passed with nothing, no word between us or our mutual allies, although there was a lot of passive-aggression on all our TLs, especially mine and GirlA's. Then GirlB decided out of nowhere to say something negative about me on her TL so I responded by taking her pics which I'd already saved and modifying then. One pic was her face put on the head of a horse as I'd previously said she looks like one, the other was a crude 2-frame animation of her banging her head on a table over and over again, and the other was a pic of her with a black eye and blood dripping down her face making light of her own domestic violence. Please bear in mind this is AFTER the 2nd time we had been friendly and fallen out so as far as I was concerned she had stabbed me in the back twice already - I wasn't offended by her initially coming to GirlA's defence at the very beginning, she was just being a friend to her. After this a few more weeks of silence passed and then.... Out of the blue on Sunday afternoon on December 7th while GirlA was celebrating her 30th birthday in Paris (!!!) and after weeks of no direct communication I got visit from police. Apparently they had obtained my IP address from Twitter then presumably learned who my ISP was from that, then contacted them to request my name and address. So she HAD gone to police and they had spent almost 2 months of their time and taxpayers money trying to track me down! This is in a time of aggressive budget cuts in the UK! I repeatedly told GirlA to ask the police to contact me via twitter or on my website to save all the hassle, they never did. It would seem at some point they, or one of their allies, got my old Twitter account (kewlmcserver) suspended (euphemism for banned), this is an account I spent several hundred hours building up. Later on she told me the actual reason she rejected me was because: 1) My, "boasting about success with women made it sound like I love myself". I was NOT boasting! An SJW who had a vendetta against me for disliking feminism tried to insinuate I was lying about interest from women and that I was actually ignored by them. Neither statement was true so I took some screenshots from my match.com account to prove this. It silenced him, but she found it comical and began using it as ammunition against me, further abusing me claiming that only losers use match - well for someone who is practically housebound how many more options do I have? Clubbing and the bar scene ("how it's done here") has never been for me. 2) My tweets about feminism (I.e. Being very suspicious of the current "3rd wave feminism") made her think I was "insane". Charming. Seems like I dodged several bullets by not getting romantically, or physically, involved with her. Day of arrest --------------- They arrived at about 5:30PM while my parents were here. We were all in a state of shock, especially my folks as they knew about GirlA but not that she'd mentioned police. Anyway they bombarded us all with questions and proceeded to search everywhere for anything I might have used to connect to the net with. They seized the following equipment: * 4 modern hard disks (including SSD, SSHD, and with multiple TB of data between them), * Android tablet * Smartphone * Charger for smartphone * Charger for tablet The officer looked at my PC tower with expression of fear, so I offered to take the hard disks out All of those items apart from 2 of the older hard disks got used on a daily basis, typically upto 15 hours each and every day! IF I can scrape together some money I could put a new hard disk in there and do some work / play some games...... They notified me I was formally under arrest but fortunately they spared me the indignity of cuffing me. Could it have been because my folks were there? We all went to the station where I would spend the next 6 hours! And my parents spent a few hours there too. They took my DNA sample, fingerprints, gave me a medical assessment, let me have consultation with lawyer, had bizarre formal interview where neither of the officers seemed to have a clue about twitter (!!!) , went in and out of cells totalling about 4 hours in them, and got to hear an angry guy in next cell screaming non-stop how his human rights were being trampled how the police were all dirty tramp c$€¥s and how he was desperate for water - they just ignored him leaving his screaming and door banging to give everyone a migraine. I gave my side of events which shows the behaviour of the women was also abusive and provocative towards me, including gangstalking (which I can prove with multiple screenshots (sadly they are on the hard disks the police seized and police said due to back log and budget cuts they won't get round to dealing with my case until next March (!!!)). I have to appear at the station again on March 31 (Initially they were talking about June) to hear how they're going to proceed, until then they are supposedly going to keep my gadgets for further investigation - this is despite me admitting the accusations - and barely been able to function on any level without them. Am usually infront of a screen 15 hrs a day. I wonder what would have happened if we hadn't answered police, as I usually ignore the bell unless I'm expecting company. Could they have smashed their way in? This is a very scary prospect to me. :( The conclusion is clear to me; if you argue with a woman in 2014, even online, they can destroy your life with police help. UPDATE- 3 days after my arrest, incarceration and seizure of property I am still waiting to hear again from solicitor (Brit: lawyer). However, a clinical psychologist working on my behalf (I have a diagnosis of Asperger syndrome which is on the "higher-functioning" end of the Autism Spectrum) is attempting to contact them to negotiate an outcome for me that is less massively disproportionate than what I have now. I honestly hope they're not planning to keep my hardware, will all my terabytes of data as long as March (as they stated). I admitted, on digital tape, the basic charge of harassment so why do they have to keep my property for "investigation"? What do I do in the meantime for gaming, texts, emails, phone calls, online dating, social media, or work? I am completely dependant on these tools and cannot afford to replace them. :(( I am also concerned about what condition they'll get back to me in, IF I ever get them back. Will it all work? Do I have legal recourse if anything's broken? Can I be compensated for time without them? Do I have legal recourse if any data's missing? Can they plant anything on the hard disks; spyware or worse? How am I supposed to work without them (I'm a software developer who works from home). This is causing me to lose much sleep and stressing my elderly parents. :( As a male with an Autism Spectrum condition and a lifelong sufferer of bullying and ostracism I feel completely violated and victimized by this whole ordeal. How and why are the police able to cause massive disruption to a man's life at the behest of 2 women with a track record of man-hating and police manipulation? Yes, both girls were aware of my diagnosis but that did not impede their crusade and lynch mob. :(( While I totally accept my responsibility for behaving in way that could be construed as harassment, I find it distasteful at best, completely unjust at worst how NO-ONE on their side has been dragged into a police station, put in a cell, questioned, or had vital items to their lives confiscated. It also seems massively disproportionate that they essentially paralyze my life by removing items that I use typically 15 hrs a day, 7 days a week (I'm pretty much housebound) for everything from work to communication with outside world to chilling and relaxing with games. What kind of "JUSTICE" is this??? :( Consequences: Undermined my confidence in local police, Further harmed confidence in local women, Increased apprehension to leave flat, Concerns: Someone can go to the police and state they are offended by me or feeling threatened, Police more likely to take woman's side than mine, Police more obliged to be interested in recent victim of DV, Essential items seized, Uncertainty of items status upon return, Costs immediately incurred for new chargers etc, Deferred costs, Severe psychological stress and trauma, Anxiety, Worry Relevant hashtags: #justice #disability #disabilityrights #malerights #freedom #legal #censorship #UK #civilliberties #womenagainstfeminism #meninism #bullying #harrassment #stalking #gangstalking #manhating TL;DR- contacted bad girl, rejected, angrily made light of her domestic violence, she reacts furiously, my retaliation, tit-for-tat exchange of abuse, she enlists her friends to wage war on me, she reports me to police, reported to twitter causing account suspension, police visit and arrest, computer and phone equipment confiscated, struggling to avoid nervous breakdown..... What next? Please feel free to contact me about any of the above, or any other issues. Thank you very much for reading and Merry Christmas (mine's wrecked)